It is an easy thing in theory to
insist that the place for the child of an unmarried mother is with
the mother, and it goes without saying that every opportunity should
be offered her to keep her child. A mother’s pension should
be given to every mother, though unmarried, who will keep her child.
The stigma too long attached to the child of the unmarried mother
should be removed. We understand perfectly the healing and purifying
power of a child who dwells with an unmarried mother, if that mother
be able and fit to care for it. And yet the facts and the circumstances
are often against the continuance of such a union. Must we not think
primarily of the future of the child? The child of an unmarried
mother rarely has a chance. It is whipped from pillar to post and
denied that place in life to which every human being is entitled
whether its parents be married or not.
Contrast two pictures: the unwelcome, unloved child, born out of
wedlock, the child that the mother leaves with us and cannot be
induced to keep, the child that she leaves without a sigh; and then
think of that child a year later, under the care of its adoptive
parents, who love it as tenderly as man and woman are capable of
loving a child. It is a very serious matter for the state and society
to insist that a child shall remain with its natural mother merely
because of its birth and that it shall be denied a thousand opportunities
which adoption under the new order of life brings.
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